I became a wife at 19 years old. Some called us crazy and asked why we didn't wait. The simple answer is, we didn't want to. We got married young because we were in love and we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Making the commitment of marriage with our family and friends surrounding us was very important to us.
I definitely don't consider myself a marriage expert whatsoever so this is just my outlook on young marriage through trials of my own. But I did get requests on my Instagram to share a few tips on young marriage so here we go...
Marriage is hard. It has not been all smooth sailing for Adam and I. We have had our ups and downs, as all couples do. I don't believe in anyone having a perfect relationship. If someone tells you they have a perfect marriage, they are lying. Whatever it may be, every marriage has its strains and goes in seasons. We have to work on our marriage daily and I think it’s important to share that. Sometimes social media can do a good job of making everything seem perfect. We have our fights and we certainly don't always agree, but we are so in love. I'm the happiest with him and that's whats most important to me!
My #1 is FORGIVENESS. People make mistakes, you will make mistakes. You are not only growing up yourself, but you are trying to mesh your life with someone else's and make it one. Forgive your spouse and you will be surprised with how much happier it makes you. Holding onto things doesn't fix anything. All it does is prevent you from growing closer to each other and cause you unnecessary heartache. I also think forgiveness is essential for all relationships in your life. It’s a sign of maturity if you can forgive and not hold grudges.
Have fun together. Adam is hands down the funniest person I know, and that's why I fell in love with him. He makes me laugh every single day whether it be him singing some funny song he made up, or making weird faces, he makes me laugh and I love it. We try and always goof around because that has been an important part of our relationship since we met.
Date Nights. I know, super cliche, but its true. We've noticed that if we don't go out on a date for a while, we slowly start to get distant with each other. Just going out to dinner with no phones is refreshing and it just gives us the opportunity to catch up.
Not being too prideful to say sorry. This was an issue in our relationship in the first few years. I will admit, I had the hardest time apologizing and I'm not sure why. It was just hard for me to see my wrong doing, but once I did, it helped a ton.
Like I said earlier, I am no marriage expert and I mess up like everyone else so I am just here giving my outlook on young marriage and how to navigate hard times, because you will have them and that’s just the truth! Like always, thank you so much for reading and I hope this brings comfort to you young married couples and reminds you that no marriage/relationship is perfect. Happiness is truly the most important thing.